In such a fast paced society, not only men, but also women are faced with huge economical pressure. Marriage is like a fortress besieged, those who are outside want to get in, and those who are inside want to get out. It is easy to love and to be love by returned , but marriage is totally different. You should have to do more and concern more about marriage, in some degree, you have to make some sacrifice to make your marriage more stable and last long.
Men are the breadwinner and plays a leading role in the family. In the most cases, it is men’s duty to make the home comfortable and cheerful. In my early youth ages, my imagination was that if you choose a right person to get married, your life should be colorful and fruitful. In fact , the actual situation is totally different from my previous imagination. Romantic is just occupy a small part of the marriage, when two people are living together longer, the character, the living habits and even the hobbies are similar. I come to realized that it is incredible that some couples are similar judge by their faces, they can accommodate & love each other well. Time make them the perfect couples just like a suitable glove wear on their hands. We can feel the happiness by our hearts.
Women are also very exhausting by working in the daytime at office, and take good care of their kids after work. Especially when their kids are in the baby hood period , the kid are easily to getting ill. And it is normal to catch a cold, have a fever, only the parents have to look after them well. Some elder parents are willing to offer appropriate assistant to look after their grandson or granddaughter in the day time, while others are reluctant to do so. It depends on different family situation. One of my colleagues, no elder generation can help her to take care of her son. She usually send her son to kinder garden first and then she go to office for work. Now it is the summer holiday season, she has to put her child in a boarding nursery, and pick him up after work.
I admire those women who can earn money and take good care of their kids at the same time. They are excellent in my mind. But I know it is the reality to make them to think a good way to settle down and to give children a better life. Being parents is the most tough job in my eyes, because you cannot retired as mother or father. You will spend your entire life to love your kids without conditions.