Last Monday, I accepted a few friends from Wechat nearby. Usually, I don’t reply if nothing attracts me.
But I checked a young man, Ben’s album and was touched by the words he posted: “I into a real not drama girl, they use but never love.”
I also read a quote: “I’m not a second option, either you choose me, or you lose me.”
It seems to me Ben’s suffering pain from breaking up a relationship.
Therefore, I sent him a few attachments from my previously blogs; I wish it could ease him out a little bit.
Ben replied: “I am impressed, really like them.”
Probably that’s the real happiness a writer can gain if it brings value to a follower.
It is understandable; a man will feel incredibly sad after losing a girl.
You two have ever lived in a dreamland, such a good time, which made Ben smile from morning till night.
Unfortunately, Ben was getting fewer text messages back or phone calls as often as it used to be, there’s distance.
Ben kept texting as if she’s the only listener who could understand his feeling.
The truth was she’s no longer had passion on Ben until one day she said good-bye or ever worse; Ben hadn't heard one word from her since the last message he sent out.
No worries, Ben, if a girl doesn’t care about you, why you still put her in mind, that’s not worth.
Life is a journey, only if you have experienced difficulties, then you will grow, be a real man.
The most important thing is that you must get out of the negative thoughts as soon as possible; it is harmful and will consume your heart.
Let your personality shine and be mentally strong with self-confidence, one day your dreamed girl will come to you.
Last Friday, when I had convertible sushi with Uni friend Meredith, she asked one question: “Do you know Roman, your Facebook friend?”
“Sorry, I can’t remember the name, how do you know?” “He’s my student in Spanish class.”
“That’s weird, who is Roman? Could you please show me his photo?”
“Oh, he’s a dance teacher!!!” I suddenly realized after I saw the face.
“He’s superb at dancing, how’s his Spanish?” I asked Meredith.
“It’s ok; he might haven't spent much time.”
“Really, but he seemed like a prince and sought after by all the cute girls at a dancing hall.”
"He’s very popular; it’s so easy for him to pick up a beautiful girl whoever he likes."
“Are you sure? I don’t get it.” Meredith wondered.
“I am sure; he is very attractive.” “That is good to hear.”
A person can only stand out by using his strengths and talents.
At Spanish classes, Roman might just be a quiet guy; no one ever paid attention to him.
He selected a Spanish subject because that’s the requirement of a Uni degree, which he didn’t care.
If he doesn’t do what true loves in his free time - dancing, probably, he will miss out those lovely girls.
To be a dance teacher, he realizes the full potential and can be one of the best.
I used to see him work very hard; he spends hours practicing and teaching dance till late at night.
He is full of energy and never gets bored.
The same to you, my friends, at a workplace, you might be an excellent professional who works for a big company.
You work hard to earn money, but you don’t get an opportunity to find a sweet girl.
You work from 9 to 5, most time you sit in front of the computer. At lunch break, you catch up with a few team members.
You say “Good morning, how are you? See ya.” to girls in other departments, most of them are professionals; they work under pressure, have no time and mood to know you very well.
Compared to a team leader, a manager or a CEO, you are just an ordinary person, all you can do is follow instructions and keep quiet, do what you are supposed to do.
Sure, you are already outstanding as the chance is rare to work in a big company. However, you have to hide, and no girl ever knows you well.
All of us can be noticeable, no matter work in a small, medium or a big company and even don’t have one.
In your free time, let yourself to be a leader and find your fans.
First, discover what you would love to do when you were a child or a teenager, but have stopped doing it since you moved to a new country.
Or because you are full of excuses of being busy and tired,
Or you think it’s impossible to do, it’s a silly idea, it’s very unrealistic, but it makes you happy when you think about it.
Probably it’s time for you to start it; you won’t be bored and have no time feel sad if you do something passionately.
Now, it’s quite easy to set up a Facebook page, a meetup group or a Wechat subscription by using your strengths, that’s the way you can find nice people with same interests.
If you are lucky enough, after a while, a group of attractive girls will come to you; you wonder: “My God, which one I can pick up, there are too many choices.”
Please don’t wait anxiously for a girl come to you by wasting time, as long as you build up your personal brand which makes you trustworthy and marvelous; a lovely girl will be with you shortly.
It is hard for you to discover what you actually love to do and you will keep doing it, no matter a girl join you or not.
But if you don’t put effort, how can you find a real one.
All girls love a person with an active mind, energetic and enjoy life as much as he can.
That’s not a big problem if you lose a girl; it matters if give up yourself.
I wish Ben could do the same thing, to show girls his best side, one day, he will be as popular as Roman at a dance place.
Life is full of miracle, only if you change attitude, a lovely girl will be there with you unexpectedly.
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